sequence practice

Asking for What I Need

5 · 10 min4 steps

Before you begin

Bring your most pressing practical need. This practice ends in one concrete act of asking.

The practice, step by step — read it all first if you like

  1. Name it plainly

    State the need in one sentence without apology or decoration.

    about 60 seconds

  2. Release the shame

    Say: need is not failure; asking is not weakness. Notice any resistance to that.

    about 90 seconds

  3. Map the help

    List the help within reach: people, services, options dismissed out of pride.

    about 120 seconds

  4. Ask

    Make one actual request today — a call, a message, an application. Small and real beats grand and postponed.

    about 120 seconds

Accessibility

The 'ask' step can be adapted to whatever communication is easiest for you.

How long do you have?

Or read through it quietly above, at your own pace.